“Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.” (Victoria Holt) from the Jack’s Winning Words blog.
Jack went on to say that Victoria Holt was an English Romance Novelist, but she could have come u with the same advice if she was a Realtor®. My experience has been that every deal seems to be full of both good and bad, so every deal is a learning experience.
I often tell newbie agents to be prepared for an emotional roller-coaster ride in every sale, no matter which side you are on. That seems to be especially true when one is engaged in short-sales. I’ve done a number of them this year and every day is like a suspense thriller, with a cliff-hanger ending. It’s not until you walk out of the closing that one can exhale.
This emotional ride used to bother me a lot more than it does now. It hasn’t gotten any better; but, I’ve gotten better at dealing with it. One needs to start by putting these “emergencies” into perspective and go from there. Real estate issues are seldom really at the life or death level. They just seem that way to some.
Sure real estate sales involve big, important decisions and they can’t be taken lightly; but, that don’t have the gravity of real life and death situations. Once you can say to yourself, “You know what, I’ll still be alive tomorrow, if this deal doesn’t work”, you can go on to using whatever problem solving skills you have to attack the issue, instead of wasting time in anxious worry about it. And, you’ll be banking more experience to help you in the future; plus you’ll be freer to enjoy the good parts.