There is a saying or phrase associated with movies which
alludes to the fact that in order to enjoy a movie one has to be ready to
suspend disbelief – to be ready to allow the story on the screen to unfold and
to take it all in as if it could actually be happening. Some movies are easier than others in which to
accomplish this state of suspended disbelief. Many movies purport to be based upon real happenings
– events that were in the news or at least about which one may have heard.
Other movies are pure fantasy, such as Star Wars; however, one can temporarily
suspend disbelief and imaging that somewhere in a galaxy far, far away…
Suspending disbelief in real estate has more to do with
actually dealing with “I can’t believe that that just happened” scenarios than it
does with imaginary situations. In real estate one must get used to dealing with
things that no rationale human being might imagine would happen, but they do.
Most of this has to do with the strange goings on behind the various curtains
that veil the real estate process from the prying eyes of the public and the
buyers and sellers.
There are many places within the flow of a real estate deal
where logic and common sense often require temporary suspension. There are the sometimes totally absurd requests/requirements
of the mysterious underwriters. There
are the sometimes incredible demands of the buyers or the sellers over some
minor point – a point that usually equates to less than 1% of the total deal,
but for which the parties are willing to sink the entire deal. There are the
pesky inputs and demands of the minor character players in the deal – the requirement
for some minor thing from the insurance company, in order to write the home
owners policy; the reluctance of the title company to provide a title policy without
objections on almost anything but a new-build house; and the other mortgage
player that shall forever remain behind the curtain – the PMI company – for whatever
reason that they are holding things up.
The parallel between the movies and a real
estate deal also cover the emotional roller-coaster that I’ve written about
many times before. Every day, from the time the offer is accepted until the
closing is over, can seem like the players are living in a daytime soap opera with
the need to create a little daily drama. There are emotional ups and downs on a
daily basis. An issue is raised and elevate to the level of a panic …and then
solved – and then it happens again the next day. Day after day there is an emergency…a
panic... and a solution (OR NOT). Each
deal might easily provide the fodder for a television reality show season.
So why do we – the Realtors involved – do this? What can
possible justify having to deal with such an emotional cauldron day after day?
I could be cynical and say “because we love it.” We don’t love it. No one can
claim to love the gut-wrenching roller coaster ride that real estate deals may
take you on. I think we love the fact that we are good at dealing with it; of handling not only our own emotions, but
those of the clients involved. Perhaps “love” is the wrong word there. We may
feel good about the fact that we are “able” to deal with it.
One of my very perceptive clients recently made the comment
( in the midst of an especially difficult and very emotionally charged deal)
that I seldom displayed emotions during the things that had been going on. I
told him that many of the things that had happened had evoked emotional
responses from me, but that someone had to maintain the only cool voice of
reason during the whole ordeal and I had chosen to take that role. When all of
the other parties are screaming and crying and letting emotions run rampant,
someone has to step out of the maelstrom and provide unemotional guidance and
counsel. I had chosen that role, as I often do.
I’ve had clients accuse me of taking the other side - of not
representing their interests, but rather that of the other side – in the heat
of the emotions of difficult deals. Most have realized later what was happening
and have come back to thank me for not joining them in their emotion-driven
efforts to sink the deals.
Real estate deals can often be (and are too often today)
very emotional. Things can happen that
require that you suspend disbelief and just go with the flow. If you can’t do
that, maybe you shouldn’t be in real estate.
It’s a great show, if you just let it happen.
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